I have been thinking a lot lately about my time. How do I give myself more time? With so many tasks in a day, and with the hours feeling as if they are getting shorter and shorter, I found myself feeling more anxious, more tired, more drained.
For my work I tell other people what to do to improve their health, but I was finding that my own self was getting put on the back burner. Which seems a bit backward as I'm supposed to lead by example.
I used to enjoy going to yoga whenever I pleased, reading a book for hours, or going to the movies with my husband. I didn't feel guilty when I sat on my patio and drank a tea and daydreamed.
What is it about becoming older and more responsible that makes us feel that we are not as important as we were when we were 19? Not as worthy of self care? Not allowed to take time for ourselves or we will be seen as lazy?
Why do so many women feel like this? Do you feel like this too? Like you have to occupy every hour of every day with tasks so that you can check things off of your never ending to-do list to feel like you accomplished something so you can feel good about yourself?
I know all about this. Between being a mom, running a business, taking care of the house and working a job on the side I found that there was not a lot of time for anything else. I knew it was making me sick. I was suffering from adrenal fatigue.
I knew that this was not a way to live. I told myself, "I have to find a better way".
And slowly I am.
I am currently building a beautiful, new, energetic program with my spiritual coach to guide my clients with. Through this process I have found a new way of working, and a new way of being. Want to know what it is?
I take 15 minutes to just sit and be.
That's it. I just be. And this is how I re-connect to myself. Then I am able to work for an hour at the most and my inner voice flows, and I get things done and I feel good about what I have channelled. I close my computer and I reconnect with the rest of my family. But this hour is my sacred time. And I cherish it.
I recently read an interview of someone I deeply admire, Sarah Britton of www.mynewroots.org The interview was on self-care and she said that she gives herself a gift every day. Not a new pair of shoes, but a special gift that doesn't necessarily require money. Like sitting for half an hour and drinking tea. Or watering her plants. Then she has something to look forward to in her day. A bit of time she makes for herself everyday.
I thought, Sarah, you are brilliant. So I have begun incorporating this train of thought into my own life. I now give myself a gift every day. Today it was swimming in the lake. Yesterday it was journalling. Tomorrow it might be taking time to enjoy a bit of stretching. And every day it is 15 minutes to just sit and be. I am loving this new way of approaching my life. Because it makes time for me.
Did you know that YOU are the most important person in your life? It is true. You are. And you need to make time to nourish that person every single day.
To keep you healthy.
To re-connect to your inner being.
To re-connect to your dreams so that you can go into the world and live them.
And when you are in this gift giving vibration of peace, love and joy, you can make miracles happen.
You can accomplish anything you want, but only when you are in this good vibration.
This is very true. I am seeing it unfolding in my own life. It is true for you too.
Not every day is easy. We all still need to grocery shop, cook dinner, do the laundry, make money. But if you can give yourself a gift every day you will have something to look forward to. A time to cherish yourself and re-connect. And this will give you the space to create your life however you want it. You will get more done. You will have more energy. You will be happier.
For the next 30 days, I challenge you to give yourself a gift every day. In a month from now I bet you will see someone more relaxed, more in-tune with herself and able to give love and joy more freely. Just try it. I dare you ;)
Chocolate Overnight Oats
Vegan, Refined Sugar Free, Gluten Free
This recipe is a go-to for me. I make it the night before I have a really early morning and have to be out the door with my daughter really quickly. It is a bit of self care in the morning because it is full of healthy ingredients, but mostly, it makes me feel really good and happy inside!
1/2 cup oats (certified gluten free if intolerant)
1 ripe banana
1Tbsp. cacao powder (to read the difference between cacao and cocoa click here)
1 cup plant milk
1Tbsp. chia seeds
pinch of pink himalayan salt
1/2 cup berries or fruit of choice (I like strawberries, raspberries, blackberries or cherries best)
cacao nibs (optional)
chopped walnuts (optional)
flax oil (optional)
1.Place the oats, banana and cacao powder in a bowl. Mash the banana and mix the 3 ingredients together until all is incorporated and the oats look like a chocolatey mess.
2.Add the milk, chia and salt and mix until uniform.
3.Cover and place in the fridge overnight.
4.In the morning, top with fresh berries, cacao nibs, walnuts and flax oil.
Love and light xo,